This weekend I finally bit the bullet and started the epic task of decluttering my wardrobe. Bear in mind I have been contemplating this task for about a year. Thinking about it …then finding every distraction under the sun to justify not doing it – sound familiar?
I know I’ll feel better afterwards, and I’ll be able to find all the lovely clothes I already have but can’t find or use because they are buried under 2 feet of crap but still I delay – why? Because I think won’t enjoy the process: it’s going to take a long time and it’ll be messy – things will look worse before they look better. I don’t feel like I have the time (or the energy, for that matter) to spare. In short, I wish there was a magic wand and it would all be done for me!
This is the same thought process people have when they are thinking about coaching or therapy – it takes time and effort we don’t think we have, to create vision we’re really not sure of; it takes patience and a willingness to get our hands dirty and see through the mess to the potential on the other side. But that’s what a coach is for – a person to offer you a steadying hand, shine a torch around to light the way and rubber gloves and bin bags to help you tidy as you go!!
These clothes and shoes (so many shoes, I am a bit embarrassed!) were perfect for me at some point in my life: they made me feel amazing, cosy, elegant or warm. But I’m older now, my style has evolved, my life is unrecognisable to what it was when I bought these items, fashion has changed and I live in a cold and windy place – why have I clung to these things that don’t fit me or my lifestyle anymore?
Because they are familiar
Because they remind me of good times
Because I once loved them and I am reluctant to let them go
Decluttering can be uncomfortable ; There’s resistance even though things or behaviour might not be serving us or making us feel good anymore because we are drawn to the familiar; and we are drawn to it because it feels safe. It feels safe because we know what will happen when we behave in that way because we’ve done it before and learnt the consequences.
Letting go, on the other hand, can be scary because we don’t know what the outcome will be for sure. It requires a bit of faith in ourselves and the world that everything will work out for the best.
Trust, that when the time is right, you will find the right way for you; that might be with a professional but it could also be a friend, a TED talk, a YouTube clip shared on Facebook that inspires you to see things differently.
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” Tony Robbins
So, take that leap, make that decision to learn more about yourself , change and grow and declutter. Be brave and kind to yourself. Be open to the idea of embracing all of life’s messiness. And tidy as you go.
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